It does not matter if you’re a sister, a bridesmaid, a cousin or a colleague, if you’re throwing a bridal shower for the first time, it can be an overwhelming task! We have put together tips to help you plan so that you end up having a beautiful bridal shower for her.
• Keep the bride in sight
You must know that for the bride-to-be, a shower isn’t just a party; it’s a day she will remember forever. That said, you have to think about the bride’s favorite foods and drinks, her personal style, the activities she enjoys, and where she likes to hang out, and try to integrate those things into her shower theme. Whatever you plan, make sure you keep your sights on the leading lady.
• Do not do it alone
If you’re planning a surprise party, you will need to get the help of a trusted friend, sister, or mother of the bride, since they can assist with the date, guest list, and tactic for getting the bride to the surprise shower on time. No one expects you to go it alone. Spreading the responsibility helps lighten the load and the costs. This also gives you the chance to spend some pre-shower social time with the other women in the bride’s life. Even if you think you can pull off this gathering on your own, it’s a nice gesture to give others the opportunity to help. Just because you’ve been deemed shower hostess doesn’t mean you have to do everything yourself, trust me, it will not only spare your pocketbook, but your sanity, too. Most importantly: Don’t forget to include everyone who’s helping as hostesses on the invitation!
• Carefully Consider Who to Invite
Do you want to have a traditional bridal shower? You should know that this typically includes all female family members of the bride and groom, girlfriends, bridesmaids, and sometimes even neighbors and co-workers. If you aren’t sure you want to host the entire clan (which is okay by the way), just remember that it’s proper etiquette to invite bridesmaids to the bridal shower. Note that as the hostess, you get to determine the size of the party and your budget concerns are principal when planning a bridal shower, so if you can only accommodate 10 people in your apartment, so be it.
• Keep it Personal!
The most interesting and enjoyable shower games are the ones that represent the bride and what you know and love about her. If you’re not sure what to do, remember that the people invited to the shower are those closest to the bride and groom, and come up with games that thrive on that connection. Before the shower, you can interview her fiancé and have someone video tape him answering the questions. During the shower, hand out the list of questions to each guest. Play the recording, and hit pause before he answers each question, and have guests guess the correct answers. (For added fun, also have the bride guess what her fiancé’s answer will be!). Also remember that while games are a necessary element of a bridal shower, you need to keep them to a minimum. Do not overdo it.
• Plan a simple menu
When planning a bridal shower, you should have an alternative that will work for everyone bearing in mind that some guests may have dietary restrictions. For example, serve a fruit salad alongside cupcakes so that vegans and gluten-intolerant friends can still enjoy a sweet treat.
• Provide a handy gift list for the bride
In all of the excitement, the bride will probably not remember which friend gave her the cute apron. Keep a list of who gave what so that the bride can write great thank you notes later. Furthermore, though everyone wants to see the bride open the gift they brought, but do they really want to be stuck in a circle for an hour or more while the bride fawns over the other 20+ gifts from everyone else? No. So, schedule time for gift opening, but make sure to keep it organized and